In many divorces, one of the spouses will decide to move out of the marital residence. If one of the spouses leaves the house, he or she will still want to be able to spend time with the children. During these visits, the kids may express concerns about the divorce, especially if they are older. This is a very difficult issue for the parents to address, because they may be unsure about what they should tell the children.
Parents should commit to keeping the children out of the middle of the divorce, because it can happen very easily. The children, if they are old enough, need to understand that they are not the reason that the marriage is failing. It is important to emphasize that each parent still loves them, and will be there for them when the divorce is over. The children need to know that the marriage is ending because of problems that the parents are having with one another that cannot be resolved.
While there may be a lot of animosity in the divorce, each parent should avoid disparaging the other parent while around the children. This will only cause serious problems during and after the divorce, and could influence the amount of time that the parent will be able to spend with the kids. If the courts are asked to determine what is in the best interests of the children, they may design custody and parenting time plans that give less time to the parent that was trying to exert more control over the children.
For some individuals, it can be extremely difficult to gather the courage to admit that their marriage is failing. They remain stuck in a relationship that no longer works for the sake of the children, which forces them to take on a lot of extra responsibilities to try to make the marriage last.
If you are thinking of filing for divorce, you should speak to an experienced attorney about what you need to do to be prepared for the process. An attorney can look at your specific situation, and help you pursue solutions on the issues that are most important to you. This includes trying to find an agreement that will allow you to spend more time with your children.
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